What I’ve Been Asked

Every once in awhile, I’ll be sharing with you what I’ve been asked via e-mail or even via a comment post, so that anyone else who has similar questions and concerns won’t feel alone.

I received this mail from a reader:

Hey lady…..my hair is in a hot mess and I neeed help…….I made a
daily spritz with Glycerine, and I put a softner in my hair and my hair
is now waaaay too soft. (im quite scared I’ve damaged it) Attempted bantu knot outs and that was such a fail. What I wanna know from you is how did you manage when your hair was short (I’m like 6/7 months in) and have no idea how to style it up. HELP PLEASE.

To which I replied:

Hey luv,

Is your daily spritz still making your
hair too soft?? It might be the amount of oil and glycerin you’ve put
in. The measurements I’ve put on my blog have been tried and tested for
me and for my hair. My hair’s a bush! And needs quite a bit of both to
soften it enough to how I like it. But yours may already be naturally
softer than mine, hence the glycerin and/or oil overload. Maybe try
reduce it a bit and see how it goes? The best test is making a small
amount at a time, testing it for a couple of days then adjusting the
amounts of ingredients according to how your hair’s reacting.

Now, the bantu know outs…those were an EPIC fail for me! I did them once about a few weeks ago after I washed and my hair was not
happy at allllll! When I undid them, my hair was so tangled, knotted up
and dry like Sahara. They’re not for everybody…or we’re doing them
wrong lol. For that, I suggest you try out a couple of other ways to
stretch your hair and find what’s easiest and best for you and your fro.
I wish I could cornrow, but I can’t (help please!) so I stick to my
chunky braids (mabutu in Swahili) or flat twists. You can do any of
those to help your hair stay stretched and detangled.

loved your last q so much, you’ve inspired me to start a new series
where I show what I used to do when I was 3/4/7/8 months natural. It’s
all here on my blog but I only recently made my blog public so some
older posts are getting lost on the reading list. So I’ll be digging through my archives and
re-posting them over some time. 

I hope this helps you, and anyone else who may be reading with the same issue in mind.



  1. November 21, 2012 / 12:03 pm

    Hi, first time exploring your blog 🙂 been going thru all your posts!! Love your style and i have serious hair envy…though am encouraged my fro will get there.

    To your reader, glycerin is a special oil unlike the other nourishing oils. It absorbs moisture from surrounding so either it's getting moisture from the air around or from your hair itself that's why some people say after glycerin use their hair gets dry and stringy. Maybe she can switch to other oils instead and test them out like olive oil or coconut oil. Different oils work for different people.

    Im a follower now

    • November 25, 2012 / 5:47 pm

      Hi SugarPuss,
      Thanks for your comment and following 🙂 I hope my reader read your message because I seemed to leave it out of my response to her. I'll be posting a "What I've Learned So Far" post on glycerin soon which highlights its benefits and how it works. Cheers for adding that in 😉

  2. Lady Q
    October 23, 2012 / 8:48 am

    Thank you so much for your blog…I am learning so much about my hair and really enjoying being Natural…Please help in loading more pics of your styles when you were 3/4/7/8 months natural..I'm still new but taking each day as it comes you are a motivation!

    • October 23, 2012 / 12:51 pm

      Hey Lady Q, I get so excited when I hear about another woman's hair story and that I may actually be helping you! I'm working on a starting a series of posts where I'll pull out some older posts and photos of me at each month of being natural, starting from month 1. I'll begin with that soon so watch out for them. Thanks for commenting 😉

  3. Anonymous
    October 20, 2012 / 4:53 pm

    I'm just discovering your blog after a comment you posted on Kurly Kichana, your hair is AWESOME!! And so is your style, endelea vivyo hivyo dada!


    • October 23, 2012 / 12:47 pm

      Asante dada! So glad you've checked out my blog and thanks for commenting 😀

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