How to Survive Your Wife’s Pregnancy

Hi, Kevin here, taking over Aisha’s #MommyMonday blog posts with my #ManMonday masterpieces for June. In case you wonder why June – well, it’s Father’s Month. Yes, we should get a whole month to be spoiled with novelty socks and personalised mugs. She asked me to share my perspective on things (for a change). Share it with an expectant friend, shove it in your man’s face or secretly use it to support your points in an upcoming argument. You have my blessing.

1 Get ready for some changes

Throughout pregnancy, things may change in a day. She might love something one day, and hate it the next. That applies to you too. You may smell of raw onions to your wife – even if you haven’t eaten anything oniony. Your wife’s personality will also change, the baby hasn’t made her crazy but the hormones have and that’s natural. You’re the rational one at this point…but don’t ever let your wife know it. Don’t be confrontational, it’s temporary so just accept it. Pregnancy brain is a real thing by the way. She will forget a lot of things. Tons and tons of things, even leaving something on the stove whilst it’s cooking. Stay calm, it’s normal. Offer to be present and to help out because I’m sure you wouldn’t want your house to burn down.

2 Always have petrol in the car

You need to be ready to do anything your wife needs you to. If she’s cold in winter, go and get gas for the heater. If it’s topping up things for the hospital bag, don’t argue, just go do it. If you’re driving her anywhere, leave early and drive outside of traffic as much as possible because your wife is going to need to pee a lot. You need to plan your routes around toilets because your wife can literally pee at the house then 5 minutes later need to pee again. So, always have petrol in the car. It should never be one of those ‘I just need to quickly put in petrol, then you can go to the bathroom’. Don’t do it dude, accept the fact that this is going to happen and it’ll make you a lot more sane. Because you will be like ‘you just peed… why do you need to pee again?!’ But she does, so just be ready for it.

3 Sex will change – a lot

When it comes to sex, you’ll figure out positions that work and others that won’t anymore. And that’ll change throughout pregnancy. Because your wife will be heavier, she’ll have less balance in some positions than others so you’ll need to figure out the new positions according to what’s comfortable. Don’t force issues, just be grateful you’re still getting it.

4 Watch out for pregnancy farts

If you and your wife don’t already fart in front of each other, you’re going to be in for a rude awakening. Pregnancy farts are insane man. Those are the most hectic farts you’ll ever experience because it’s like two people farting at the same time. It’ll happen a lot. Most of the time, it’s out of her control. It’s bad. Crack a window and deal with it. She’s carrying your baby so cut her some slack.

5 You’ll feel left out 

You can feel very neglected. Everything she does, everything that she reads, everything she’s being told by other moms before her is all baby related. So you’ll feel like this baby has completely replaced you in your relationship. You’ll also get tired of talking about a child who isn’t even there yet sometimes. But your wife will feel even more neglected if you aren’t present because she’ll feel like you’re leaving her to do this on her own. So, help out as much as you can. Offer to cook, or pick something up for dinner. Just always be ready to do something. And doing something could also mean just being there and keeping quiet.

One more thing

Don’t take anything your wife says or does to you personally. You won’t have time to deal it when the baby comes anyways so just put it all aside. She’s going through a huge medical, hormonal, physical and emotional change that she’s never experienced before. And it’s scary, it’s very scary for her. No matter how hard it is on you, it’s much harder on her. No matter how neglected, tired, annoyed or frustrated or angry you feel, it’s much worse for your partner. By far. So just be as supportive as you can, don’t take things personally and be there for her.

And forgive her for those lethal farts.

Aisha suggested I ask you a question when I finish this post. So, my question is, how did I do? Anything you wish your partner knew about pregnancy?

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17 Comments

  1. MrsFF
    June 12, 2018 / 8:59 pm

    You did well…. and it’s all so true. The changes are all so real to the woman and the men who have to live with us too.

  2. Mogau
    June 12, 2018 / 4:02 pm

    You did very well Kevin! Informative and full of humor. Thanks Aisha for featuring him. I really enjoyed this 🙂

  3. nandi
    June 7, 2018 / 8:27 pm

    informative & funny too. recently got married. definitely need to show this to my husband.

  4. Karijackie
    June 7, 2018 / 8:35 am

    Good work Kevin.This is really informative,easy to read and so funny.Aisha should make you a regular writer.I thought the pregnancy farts was the funniest i cant wait to get pregnant its going to be revenge on my husband !!

  5. Darla Rudakubana
    June 7, 2018 / 4:25 am

    Love it!! Number 1 especially and the pregnancy farts! Mine went on for a month or two after my pregnancy. I wish I had this blog to share with everyone who judged me (with their eyes and noses).

  6. Tumi
    June 6, 2018 / 10:43 am

    Thank you Kev. #raw, truth and honesty. You made my day.

  7. June 6, 2018 / 2:08 am

    This is so sweet. I felt for my brother in law when my sister was expecting. She’d love him and shower him with kisses (even in front of our dad) the one day and just randomly scream “u did this to me” the next. My father enjoyed those bits. . .for taking away his baby girl i guess. And she really did forget stuff. A lot. This is really cool. My brother is a soon to be dad. I’ll show him this.

    😂lol at lethal farts. A lil wind ain’t never hurt nobody.
    Mvumikazi | Urban Mnguni

  8. Amanda
    June 5, 2018 / 1:33 pm

    Looks like your a blogger too too Kevin😉 this was a really good read and I wish my husband had read some of these tips while I was pregnant! For instance I once left eggs on the stove for 8 hours and almost burnt the house down😅..: pregnancy turns everyone’s life upside down and just being a little more understanding goes a long way! Only thing I would add is to say that the hormones don’t stop raging after baby pops out!! they are still there for a good few months afterwards!! Well done on this great read Kev, and great intitiave as a couple, Am sure you will help a lot of expectant dads and moms out there! Happy Father’s Day in advance 😇🤗

  9. Yolz
    June 5, 2018 / 1:15 pm

    Wow. I need to print this and keep it on ny hubby’s bed side! This was so true and extremely well written. Thanks Kev!

  10. Bunjiwe
    June 5, 2018 / 12:12 pm

    Hahahaha Kev this is the raw truth… I wish more men could read it and relate and gain more insight and understanding about their pregnant partners. It is a beautiful journey if the man appreciates and learns through the process…thank you!!

  11. Cynthia
    June 5, 2018 / 9:28 am

    Reading this in the Month of June is very touching and made me emotional……you did Good Thumbs Up . Men out there should know that some women hate sex whilst pregnant from the day they find out til the last day and some love it,some compromise……Body changes…stretch marks gosh. I know when I was pregnant i did not want some Lol…,hated his perfume,could not cooking and forgot to lock the doors every time i left the house….
    It was a good idea to hear all this from a man’s perspective….very funny and inspirational.

  12. Daffodils
    June 4, 2018 / 7:14 pm

    I read this three times. The third time I feel all emotional. First comment I felt like how amazing is this guy’s tone of writing, feels honest and authentic. Now as I post my second comment, I feel like this is a raw truth that many men and women need to hear. First time moms mostly get told the cute side to pregnancy, I like that this is real and can ‘prepare’ a first timer. For dads to be, I like how you promote that they get involved. I’m lucky to have a hubby who understood, we need more hubbies like this, as it’s a FACT men who become this involved lack in our communities. They are there but not empowered to know they can, plus the stigma around pregnancy – it’s not just for the women but the dads too. Amen brother

  13. Daffodils
    June 4, 2018 / 6:33 pm

    Go daddy go. This was a great perspective from a man’s view. We need more of these

  14. Rukks
    June 4, 2018 / 6:33 pm

    You nailed it, Kev. Well written, I’m sure every future father will relate and appreciate the tips. I look forward to reading more. Well done!!!

  15. Thanks Phakati
    June 4, 2018 / 5:59 pm

    Omg Kevin lol, I love the honesty about the lethal farts!!! You actually did very well and I just wish he knew that telling me upfront not to eat too much cake for example actually hurts feelings, there’s diplomatic ways of raising concerns because the emotions are crazy! A diplomatic dad-to-be will definitely enjoy the pregnancy.

  16. Joan
    June 4, 2018 / 5:58 pm

    I’m not a man and neither am I pregnant but this was interesting and honest. Will keep in mind to share it when the time comes…

  17. Lerato
    June 4, 2018 / 5:56 pm

    This was a nice read Kevin, light but very informative, and funny too😂

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